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Wearing A Costume

30 Oct

A couple of Saturdays ago my husband and I had a Halloween party to attend…costumes mandatory.  For most people, like my husband, this is an opportunity to have fun and do something that he loves to do, dress up.  For someone more introverted like me, this invitation initially made me groan and shudder.

SO, I’ll back it up a bit.  My husband starts growing his beard around August every year in anticipation of Halloween to don one of his two costumes….a Barbarian or a Bavarian.  He will dress up regardless of whether of not we are invited to a party.  He will dress up to simply trick or treat with the kids, or show up at my parents over 55 community Halloween party, or just to walk around town.  I love this about him. I have the matching Barbarian costume but it’s been worn several times so I went in search of a matching Bavarian costume this year.

I found one but wow it seems all costumes are made in a very revealing fashion.  I tried it on at the Spirit Costume store and pleaded with the 20-year-old sales girl to give me an honest opinion about whether or not my 43-year-old body could pull this off.  She said I could.  I still decided to wear shorts underneath so nothing would sneak out. :)

And this was our final look as a Bavarian couple right before we took off to the party.

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I still wasn’t convinced.

But we got to our darkly lit Halloween party where we saw so many fun costumes and unrecognizable friends.  We laughed so much.  It was more fun than I’ve had in a long time.  And I realized there’s something to this costume party thing.  Dressing up adds a different element of amusement and inhibition to a party.

Do you wear a costume for Halloween?

 

My Dad’s Birthday

24 Oct

Last weekend we celebrated my father’s 81st birthday. It was a simple family gathering with my sister and brother. Since we aren’t all together that often I thought it would be nice to snap a photo of the five of us…our primary family.

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I think the birthday boy looks better than anyone…yet I know he’s going to be mad at me for revealing his age!

Happy Birthday Dad!!!!!!!

A Story About Expectations and Being A Kid

17 Oct

My son is playing on a travel ice hockey team.  Most of the time my husband and I are split up managing the kids and the activities and I’m not able to see him play. But last month I was excited that we “traveled” as a family to nearby Queens to watch him play.

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I actually felt a bit anxious as the moments got closer to the game, and busied myself snapping away photos…what I do always!

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When we got home I was taken by one photo in particular and asked my son about it.

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“This was right before you went on the ice” I said to him, “were you nervous about the game?”  He said, “No mommy, I was just staring at the Zamboni.”

He wasn’t nervous!  I was nervous!  Hockey is his passion.  It’s about having fun.  So here I was projecting my adult feelings about the game onto him when he was just being a child, being mystified about the big truck on the ice. :)

What a great lesson for me!  I want to look at this photo forever, slow down time, and remember that he’s still my little boy. :)

 

September 11

11 Sep

Though I was born and lived the first 20 years of my life in New Jersey, and I do have a strong affinity for the state that is chastised by some, I’ve been living in NY for more than half of my life.  I now consider myself a New Yorker and couldn’t be more proud, especially on days like today, 9/11.

I lived in NYC on 9/11, just several miles away from all of the devastation.  Like most people, I remember the events of the day vividly….the beautiful blue sky that day, the call that I received that alerted me to the horror, and so on.  But unlike other people, I cannot listen to the news on the anniversary, I cannot look at the names, and I have never ever been back to that area.  Maybe its post-traumatic stress or some kind of denial.  Even writing this is an arduous task.

Instead, every 9/11 I reflect silently and hope and pray for all of the families that were affected.  And today I did talk to my children about it as well.

How do you deal, if at all, with 9/11?

Week 1 of School Just About Complete

5 Sep

Today marks the first week of 4th and 2nd grade complete in this house and this may have been the toughest transition back to school my kids have ever experienced.  All Labor day weekend long my daughter kept reminding me not to remind her that school was starting on Tuesday.  Though each day of the long weekend brought the threat of rain, it held out and we raced to our town pool to spend every last moment we could before it closed on Monday.

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Monday night I couldn’t sleep at all…I was getting over a cold and heard my little one coughing throughout the night as well.  But I did get up early for my job as drill sergeant to get everyone ready for that 7:41 bus.  I figured it would be late on the first day as it always is though which would give me some time for pictures…..

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Wrong!

As soon as I snapped this photo we heard that all familiar roar of the bus up the street and we raced down it.  I shoved the kids on.  It was not the send off I wanted…especially for my little one in her new school! I felt so tired and guilty and mixed up.  But luckily I had my annual meet up with friends at Starbucks to look forward to and that helped a lot.

The first day of school was also the hottest day of the year so the poor kids were sweltering.  My daughter came home early and sick! (Luckily she was able to return the next day.)  There’s been a lot of grumpiness and whining and all around malaise.  I know they are tired and so am I but I am thrilled the weather is still summer like!

How has back to school gone for you?

Shopping Buddies

22 Aug

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I love summer and right about now is when I start to plummet into depression as the days getting shorter and I’m cognizant of the fact that it is 7:35 and starting to get dark.

Don’t get me wrong…the kids have been driving me crazy….biting each other, punching each other, whining….I know you know what I’m talking about.  And they were not happy to be dragged along today when I had to go to the store (because summertime also means I perpetually have no groceries because I rarely get to the store!).

However, I had a moment when I was checking out and they were all happily comparing their sour spray flavors……….not only will I miss summer in September, but, as crazy as they make me, I am going to miss these guys…….terribly!!!

I’m wondering if I’m the only mom right now who is feeling this way.  Fall is going to be so busy.  I could use one more month of summer :)

Another Beautiful Wedding

18 Aug

When you marry a guy who is one of SEVEN that’s right SEVEN children, you have a lot of family events to attend, especially in the spring and summertime. (My husband was an uncle at age nine!)  I happen to love it coming from a small family.

On Saturday night our gorgeous niece Ari got married and stupid me I didn’t even snap a picture of her and the groom, but I did of course get a picture of her and my monkeys!

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After the ceremony some of the kids were playing with the rose petals and I took what I think is one of the most beautiful shots ever.

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It kind of makes me cry to look at it…so innocent…

The kids are at a nice age to attend family events and be able to run hang with their cousins and have fun.  The only downside was that they crashed by 10:0; they were done!

I kept looking over at their older cousins sitting together sharing drinks and was thinking that it won’t be too long before that’s these guys…and then I got choked up!

 

 

A Photo

3 Aug

Last April when we were in Florida I took this shot of my little one and I’m pretty in love with it.

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We were in a safari place, taking a river boat tour.

She’s my baby girl.  :)

July 4th…Best Holiday…

12 Jul

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Why? Because it is in my favorite season….summer!  The only bummer is that once it hits, you blink and summer is over. We spent ours celebrating last Saturday night at my husband’s golf club.

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There were rides and games for the kids and psychics and caricaturists and tatoo artists too.  The highlight of the evening for me is when we all sat for a family caricature!  A lady nearby remarked that we all looked “so cute” and I asked if she wouldn’t mind snapping a photo…my fave!

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And my hubs who cracks me up everyday thinks he looks better as a caricature than in real life :)

Then before we knew the fireworks started…they were stupendous and wonderful!

Oh summer hang on, we’re having too much fun!!! How was your 4th?!

 

Celebrating Special Birthdays

5 Jul

Last weekend we celebrated my mother’s 79th birthday…how great does she look!?

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And I remind you that my dad, who doesn’t like his age revealed, took us all away on a big trip to Mexico last summer to celebrate his BIIIIIG birthday!!!  (Seriously if I looked like them I would tell everyone in sight my age!)

To celebrate, we gathered my sister, my brother, spouses, kids and my brother’s friend and we took over half of a little Italian restaurant.

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Because really that’s all my mom wants….to have all her family in one place.  And since it happens so infrequently, we took just a few pictures…

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Love my little poser in the foreground!

How do you celebrate family member’s birthdays?

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